VaLeNtiNeS dAy…and Us

St. Valentine’s Day
by Javeria Aqeel

The effects of globalization are having a great impact on our society, culture and moral values. Slowly and gradually social activities which were in the past looked down upon are now being accepted as a norm – a part and parcel of this age of modernization.

St. Valentine’s Day is one such festival, which in the recent years has seen a sudden boom in our society and is now ‘religiously’ celebrated by the young and old both. The media has played a major role in encouraging this festival and this day has become a flourishing business for selling Valentines Day cards, flowers, chocolates, gift items etc. Our society is blindly following and accepting the global culture which is undermining the roots of our religion, faith and moral values

People have no qualms in celebrating this festival as it is presented as day of ‘Love”. There appears to be a mind set that even though it’s a Christian festival, there is no harm in celebrating it, because our intention is not to follow Christians, but just to spread love and show our feelings to our loved ones. This mind set has seen the dropping of the ” St.” from St. Valentine’s Day, so as to forget it’s a Christian festival as well!

This justification does not hold water because you are answerable for what you do and your intention will not save you from the punishment of Allah.

So let us analyze this festival, see its origins evolution and its effects on our society and decide for our selves what should be our stand on this day being Muslims and why.

The Origin of St. Valentine’s Day:

The Christian history attributes many different origins of this day, attributed to different saints by the name of Valentine. So its Christian origins are clouded by many mysteries. They are not really Christian festivals at all, since it is know from history that the in the ancient pagan culture of Rome and Greece, the month of February was always considered as a month of romance, fertility and spring, and history proves that St. Valentines day originated from two most sexually perverted and obscene Roman festivals of fertility called Lupercalia and Feast of Juno Februata both celebrated on the 15 th of February..


This festival celebrated on 15th of February was held to celebrate fertility in the honor of roman god Lupercus also called Faunus, an embodiment of fertility, sexuality and lust. He had the head and torso of a man, but the hindquarters and horns of a goat

The ceremony began with the sacrifice of goats and a dog. The youths were anointed with their blood. They were made to wear goat skins (to impersonate Lupercus) and small pieces of goat skin were cut into long strips called Februa. The youths then ran around, striking at any woman that came near them with this Februa. This was considered to bestow fertility to the woman.

Feast of Juno Februata:

The feast of goddess Juno Februa was celebrated after the ceremony of Lupercalia. Juno Februa was the roman goddess of love, marriage and women. For this feast, women wrote their names on slips of papers and men would take the slips out. The woman whose name was on the slip would become his partner for the day’s sexual festivities.

Christianizing Lupercalia and Juno Februata

Christianity was greatly influenced by the Roman pagan philosophy during the reign of the Roman Emperor Constantine I (288 – 337 AD) who accepted Christianity but Pagan festivals continued under his empire and pagan philosophy also integrated into Christianity.

It was in AD 494, that Pope Gelasius I decided to suppress the perverted pagan festivals. He replaced Lupercalia with the Feast of The Purification of Virgin Mary, celebrated till now on 15th of February by the Eastern Rite Catholic Churches.

It is also said that he replaced the Feast of Juno Februata by St. Valentine’s Day and moved it to 14th February. Instead of lottery of girls, the lottery was replaced by names of Christian saints, whom the youths had to copy that day. Different stories and legends were made, attributed to many different people by the name of Valentine, to give credibility to Saint Valentines Day. The creation of a festival for such obscure figures further proves it was merely an attempt to white wash the pagan celebrations with a label of Christianity since they were not able to get rid them from their culture.

Pagan Symbols

St. Valentine or not, today this day has come back to its original perverted roots. Cupid, a widely used symbol of love is originally a young naked Roman god of erotic love, which comes from Latin word Cupere – meaning to desire.

Roman gods and goddesses actually come from Greek Philosophy and the Greek equivalent of Cupid is Eros – the primordial god of love, sex and lust.

The negative social impact of St. Valentine’s Day

In the west, this day of love becomes a day of distress for many people who are lonely and single. Suicidal thoughts and attempts are on the rise this day. Valentine days blues and depression is now such a common factor that many Anti Valentines day websites have cropped up on the internet. A recent google search for anti Valentines Day returned 1,830,000 results. Many e greeting companies have an Anti Valentines Day category. Humorous and cynical valentines day cards are also exchanged with phrases like:

“At least my cat loves me”

“Happy unimaginative, consumerist oriented entire arbitrary manipulative and shallow interpretation of romance day”

“Amount I love you = Amount I spend on you”

“I’m so lonely”

A Money Making Business

This day is considered by the consumers to be a money making business conceived by card, flower, gift and chocolate companies to make more money by creating a fake festival i.e. creating a need to make people buy their products – a creative marketing strategy!

Valentines Day spending Statistics

2006 statistics predicted that a consumer will spend on average $ 100.89 on this day and the total Valentine’s Day spending will reach $13.70 billion!
Valentine’s Day is the number one floral market holiday, capturing 35 percent of holiday transactions. Approximately 180 million cards are exchanged industry-wide, making Valentine’s Day the second largest holiday for giving greeting cards, according to Hallmark More than 36 million heart-shaped boxes of chocolate are sold for Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day Revealed:

· Not a Christian Festival

· Not associated with Saint. Valentine

· Originally from two most sexually perverted pagan Roman festivals: Lupercalia and Feast of Juno Februata

· Celebration of fertility, lust, desire, sex and erotica.

· Nothing to do with displaying platonic love!

· Treatment of women as objects of lust, desire and fertility.

· In honor of Roman gods and goddesses

Whose Sunnah are you following?

Sunnah means a trodden path. If you are celebrating St. Valentine’s Day, you are actually following the Sunnah of the Roman pagans and the Sunnah of the Christians since it is considered to be a Christian festival.Every time we offer our salat, we recite Surah Al Fatiha.

In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.

Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds, The Beneficent, the Merciful

Owner of the Day of Judgment,

Thee (alone) we worship; Thee alone we ask for help.

Show us the straight path,

The path of those whom Thou hast favored

Not (the path) of those who earned Thine anger nor of those who go astray.”

· Allah clearly tells us NOT to follow the path of people who earned his anger

· Allah also tells us NOT to follow the path of those who went astray.

· Don’t you think Roman idol worshippers are those who earned the anger of Allah? Don’t you think the Christians are those who went astray?

Sign of the Last Day: Muslims following Persians, Romans, Jews and Christians

Narrated By Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri : The Prophet said, “You will follow the ways of those nations who were before you, span by span and cubit by cubit ( i.e., inch by inch) so much so that even if they entered a hole of a mastigure(a kind of lizard), you would follow them.” We said, “O Allah’s Apostle! (Do you mean) the Jews and the Christians ?” He said, “Whom else?” (Bukhari: Vol 009, Book 092, Hadith 422.)

Narrated By Abu Huraira : The Prophet said, “The Hour will not be established till my followers copy the deeds of the previous nations and follow them very closely, span by span, and cubit by cubit ( i.e., inch by inch).” It was said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Do you mean by those (nations) the Persians and the Romans?” The Prophet said, “Who can it be other than they?”

So whether St. Valentines day is Roman in origin or Christian in origin, Muslims are doomed if they celebrate it.

True Love: Love Allah

Allah (swt) is our Creator, Sustainer and Cherisher. Everything comes from him. He alone deserves our love, Allah says in the Quran:

Yet there are men who take (for worship) others besides Allah as equal (with Allah); they love them as they should love Allah. But those of faith are overflowing in their love for Allah. If only the unrighteous could see behold they would see the penalty that to Allah belongs all power and Allah will strongly enforce the penalty .

(Quran 2:165)

Love Rasool Allah

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said:
“Love Allah because he nourishes and sustains you. Love me because Allah loves me” (Tirmidhi)

Allah says in the Quran:
Say: ‘If you do love Allah follow me, Allah will love you and forgive your sins for Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful. Quran 3:31

Surely those who believe and do righteous deeds, to them will God Most Gracious bestow His Love. Quran 19:96

It is very clear that if we follow the traditions (sunnah) of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), Allah (swt) will love us. Allah’s Messenger (swt) invited people to have faith in Allah and work deeds of righteousness, which he himself practiced with much devotion

Seek Allah’s Love

Abu Hurairah (ra) narrated that the Prophet (pbuh) said:

“If Allah loves a person, He calls Gabriel saying, ‘Allah loves so and-so; O Gabriel! Love him.’ Gabriel would love him and make an announcement amongst the inhabitants of the Heaven. ‘Allah loves so-and-so, therefore you should love him also,’ and so all the inhabitants of the Heaven would love him, and then he is granted the pleasure of the people on the earth.” (Bukhari Vol 4: Book 54 Hadith 431)

Spread True Love Everyday and Everywhere

· Invite others to the truth of Islam- invite people to the true love of Allah

· Spread true love by serving humanity

· Give zakat and charity and bring a smile to the poor, needy and sick

· Treat everyone with respect, kindness and love and give gifts

· Do these 365 days a year!

· Celebrate Eid, a true day of Love

Love requires Sacrifice

True Love seeks sacrifice and I’ve given it all

This, this is the true love in its purest form

I turn my face towards You now

The Lord of my world and the heavens above

I am yours and yours alone

My prayer, my sacrifices are only for You

My life and death are Yours to take

A promise I make

To lay my life for You

An oath that I worship

No-one but You

(Poem based on the dua of Prophet Muhammad saw)
(Poem based on the dua of Prophet Muhammad saw)

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19 thoughts on “VaLeNtiNeS dAy…and Us

  1. Exemplary once again.

    Actually we can’t stand still unless we bring complete deen in our life. The one should go forth and forth and forth…, till one brings the Islam as a whole in his/her life and start practicing Islam completely.

    You can think of it as an escalator that is moving up to down and think yourself as a person standing on that intended to go up, because the other escalator is not provided, nor a simple stairs. You can not stand still because it will take you down. You have to work really hard to get the top, or at least do a little to maintain the level.

    As We are not doing anything for ourselves, our society, our religion to save it from the evil of different false rituals and rites already exist in our society. There is a high probability that you would be suffer from more and more and more …

  2. Assalam-u-Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah!
    This Article is a great service to clear a very big misunderstanding from the minds of Muslim Youth. We are following whatever we are presented with our eyes closed.
    Miss Javairia! You have really done a marvelous job. May Allah reward you.

  3. A job well done indeed. We should keep alive our own culture and not ape the west.

    However, I have been wondering… Why is it that the one topic which is discussed more than anything else by our ulema and molvees is,,, women and anything around and about them.

    Its as if the single most important problem,threat and danger faced by the muslim umah is,, women,their dress code and socializing habits.

    Any other issue, like social injustice, poverty, corruption, class distinctions, forced labour, unemployment, crime, intolerance, ignorance, bigotry and every other sin or problem is simply insignificant and unworthy of a word even, when compared to women,and what they do or dont do.

    Its as if the muslim umah can rise back to glory and respect only if muslims stopped thinking about sex.

    I fear we have grossly misplaced priorities…..

  4. Nice article and also good comments by Aleem…nothing else bothers us…the root cause is injustice to all evils, but it seems to be complete silence on this issue.

  5. I believe nearly all festivals are celebrated with Money. U have money then every day is Eid or Diwali. you dont have money. even Diwali or Eid is of no use. In this world of materials expecting a common human being to follow the book is bit unrealistic. And then we, you and me, end up blaming US of the A for all the wrong things happening in our societies. We wont agree to one point, we all have issues. And instead of addressing those issues we look for some scapegoats. Valentine’s day is another scapegoat. I will simply avoid anything like valentine’s day. The more I talk about this crap issue the more it will get publicised.

  6. Good post – well researched and thoughtful..
    I agree with Aleem’s views:

    However, I have been wondering… Why is it that the one topic which is discussed more than anything else by our ulema and molvees is,,, women and anything around and about them.

    This is the crux of the problem with the clergy’s view of Islam..

    Keep it up

  7. @Aleem: very simple. Because same issue is imposed by non-Muslims most frequently than anything else and progressive muslims keep accepting their views and try to impose on others.

    The day they stop this process, ulema will stop too. Newton’s 3rd law is applicable everywhere not only in physics.

  8. @ Aleem –
    What say you about Qaum-e-Loot?
    That is a big issue, indeed. But my intention, on the other hand, is not to set priorities. I mean its already there. Its not about big or small, more important or less important. Its about following complete Deen. Its about, one should work in his/her own domain and capacity. There are places where woman hijab is not an issue but they have other bigger problems. Hence, definitely they would set different priorities.

    I have tried the things progressively but wrongly. I picked one sin at first and then tried to condemn that but no results. Because I found that was depending on the other so I picked the other one too and realized that its depending on the other one and so and so. Then now I realized all are, somehow, related to each other. Yes its true that the only way you should beat them all and acquire all virtues is a progressive and gradual way. Almost no one can do that over night. But you should pick all the sins all the virtues altogether to discard and acquire them, respectively. You have to think over your each and every action and act appropriately now and keep this method in practice. You can not take some parts from Deen and keep the rest for someone else.

    I believe that these issues are discussed on the very time when that thing is about to come. Like Javeria posted this on 9th Feb. I have seen many Ulama Hazrat discuss fasting in the month of ramazan, Qurbani just before eid, Ashura just before muharram.

  9. @ Kumar –

    We believe that book is from the creator. Let take it this way. We are the products. God is the vendor. And the Quran, the only book we care about most, is the user manual for all His products. Here the product is intelligent enough and doesn’t need any user. So, the product itself is the user. Now what you think expecting a common human being to follow the book is realistic or not?

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  11. @ Aleem, Ahmed and Raza
    “Why is it that the one topic which is discussed more than anything else by our ulema and molvees is,,, women and anything around and about them.”

    Regarding everyones view of the above:
    Firstly -Valentines day is not directed to women alone.. both genders are equally to blame.

    Seconldy the issue as to why molvies discuss nothing but women – can some one tell me?

    Why is Pakistan on the No Of Spot for google trends on search word “sex”???
    This topic was greatly discissed on Karachi Metro Blogging…
    It seems that the favourtie topic of the Pakistani youth is this ??? Why isnt the youth blamed then?

    it seems the “young boys” discuss women and everything and anything around them!! why blame the poor molvies!?

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  13. Assalamu Alaikum….

    This article must be read by all Muslim that still celebrating Valentine Day. I would like to ask permission to translate it into my Language (bahasa Indonesia) and publish it in my blog.

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