There were certain expressions of love that
the Prophet (pbuh) explicitly disapproved of.
He did not like that people should rise for
him when he arrived.
Narrated Abu Umamah: The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) came out to
us leaning on a stick. We stood up to show respect to him. He said: Do not
stand up as foreigners do for showing respect to one another. [Dawud
:: Book 41 : Hadith 5211]
Similarly he discouraged poetry that bordered
on Shirk (associating partners with Allah) and raised his status to that
of Allah or even higher.
Narrated Ar-Rabi’: (the
daughter of Muawwidh bin Afra) After the consummation of my marriage, the
Prophet came and sat on my bed as far from me as you are sitting now, and
our little girls started beating the tambourines and reciting elegiac
verses mourning my father who had been killed in the battle of Badr. One
of them said, “Among us is a Prophet who knows what will happen tomorrow.”
On that the Prophet said, “Leave this (saying) and keep on saying the
verses which you had been saying before.” [Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 62
:: Hadith 77]
He disliked excessive
and exaggerated praise.
Narrated ‘Umar: I heard
the Prophet saying, “Do not exaggerate in praising me as the Christians
praised the son of Mary, for I am only a slave. So, call me the slave of
Allah and His Apostle.” [Bukhari :: Book 4 :: Volume 55 :: Hadith 654]
He strongly condemned making his grave a
place of worship or other deviant practices.
‘A’isha and Abdullah
reported: As the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) was about to
breathe his last, he drew his sheet upon his face and when he felt uneasy,
he uncovered his face and said in that very state: Let there be curse upon
the Jews and the Christians that they have taken the graves of their
apostles as places of worship. He in fact warned (his men) against what
they (the Jews and the Christians) did. [Muslim :: Book 4 : Hadith 1082]
Sadly, we do all of the above things in the
name of love especially on 12th rabiul awal..We do this all without realizing that the one whom we claim to love, himself
forbade these things. Then will this love of ours be acceptable to him on
the Day of Judgment or will he disown it
Written by Hafsa