A True Love Story

In the Name of God, the Most Merciful, the Most Compassionate

She was one of the noblest women around, coming from a very prominent family. She was also quite beautiful and the holder of a considerable amount of wealth, being a prominent businesswoman. To marry her would have been a great feat for any man, and indeed, quite a few of the most prominent and wealthy men in society had asked for her hand. Yet, she rejected them all; already being a widow, she had lost the desire to marry again.

Until he came into her life. He was young man of 25, and although he was also of a noble family, he was an orphan and was not a man of many means. He had made a meager living tending sheep in the hills surrounding the city. Yet, he had an impeccable moral character, and he was widely known as one of the most honest men around. That is what attracted her to him: she was looking for someone honest who could conduct business for her, as she – a woman in a fiercely patriarchal society – could not do it herself. So, he started working for her.

After he came back from his first business trip, she asked her servant, whom she sent with him, about him and his conduct. The servant amazed her by his report: this young man was the kindest, gentlest man he had ever met. Never did he treat the servant harshly, as many others do. Yet, there was more: as they traveled in the heat of the desert, the servant noticed that a cloud had followed them the entire time, shading them from the blazing sun. The businesswoman was quite impressed with her new employee.

Not only that, this new employee proved to be an astute businessman in his own right. He took his employer’s merchandise, sold it, and with the profits bought other merchandise that he sold again, thus profiting twice. All this was enough for her: the embers of love in her heart that were once extinguished re-kindled again, and she resolved to marry this young man, who was 15 years younger than she.

So, she sent her sister to this young man. She asked him, “Why are you not married, yet?”

“For lack of means,” he answered.

“What if I could offer you a wife of nobility, beauty, and wealth? Would you be interested?” she told him.

He replied in the affirmative, but when she mentioned her sister, the young employee chuckled in amazement.

“How could I marry her? She has turned down the most noble men in the city, much wealthier and prominent than me, a poor shepherd,” he said.

“Don’t you worry,” the sister replied, “I’ll take care of it.”

Not long after, the wealthy businesswoman married her young employee, and it was the beginning of one of the most loving, happiest, and sacred marriages in all of human history: that of Prophet Muhammad and Khadijah, the daughter of Khuwaylid. When they were married, the Prophet was 25 years old, and Khadijah was 40. Yet, that did not bother the Prophet one bit. He loved her so deeply, and she loved him as deeply. They were married for 25 years, and she bore him seven children: 3 sons and 4 daughters. All of the sons died in young age. Khadijah was a source of immense love, strength, and comfort for the Prophet Muhammad, and he leaned heavily on this love and support on the most important night of his life.

While he was meditating in cave of Hira, the Angel Gabriel came to the Prophet Muhammad and revealed to him the first verses of the Qur’an and declared to him that he was to be a Prophet. The experience terrified the Prophet Muhammad, and he ran home, jumping into Khadijah’s arms crying, “Cover me! Cover me!” She was startled by his terror, and after soothing and comforting him for a while, the Prophet was able to calm down and relate to her his experience.

The Prophet feared he was losing his mind or being possessed.

Khadijah put all his fears to rest: “Do not worry,” she said, “for by Him who has dominion over Khadijah’s soul, I hope that you are the Prophet of this nation. Allah would never humiliate you, for you are good to your relatives, you are true to your word, you help those who are in need, you support the weak, you feed the guest and you answer the call of those who are in distress.” She then took him to her cousin, Waraqah ibn Nawfal – a scholar well-versed in the Judeo-Christian scripture – and he confirmed to the Prophet that his experience was Divine and he was to be the Last Prophet.

After his ministry began, and the opposition of his people became harsh and brutal, Khadijah was always there to support the Prophet Muhammad, sacrificing all of her wealth to support the cause of Islam. When the Prophet and his family was banished to the hills outside of Mecca, she went there with him, and the three years of hardship and deprivation eventually led to her death. The Prophet Muhammad mourned her deeply, and even after her death, the Prophet would send food and support to Khadijah’s friends and relatives, out of love for his first wife.

Once, years after Khadijah died, he came across a necklace that she once wore. When he saw it, he remembered her and began to cry and mourn. His love for her never died, so much so, that his later wife A’isha became jealous of her. Once she asked the Prophet if Khadijah had been the only woman worthy of his love. The Prophet replied: “She believed in me when no one else did; she accepted Islam when people rejected me; and she helped and comforted me when there was no one else to lend me a helping hand.”

Much has been made and said about Prophet Muhammad’s multiple marriages. There are many who smear the Prophet as a womanizing philanderer, citing his multiple marriages. This is absolute propaganda. As a response to those who malign the Prophet , IF the Prophet were anything of the sort, he would have taken advantage of his youth to do such a thing. But he did not! At a time when it was a common custom to have multiple wives, the Prophet did not marry anyone else while he was with Khadijah.

It was only after Khadijah died, may God be pleased with her, that he married other women. Most of these wives were widows, whom the Prophet married to care after them, or they were the daughters of prominent Arab chieftains, so that the Prophet could form a cohesive Muslim society out of a fiercely tribalistic (and barbaric) Arab culture. The smears against the Prophet fall flat on their faces once the light of truth shines brightly upon them.

In a song about the Prophet and Khadjiah, Muslim rappers Native Deen sing: “We look for stories of love in places dark and cold – When we have a guiding light for the whole world to behold.” Many of what we call “love stories” today are nothing more than stories of lust and desire, physical attraction disguised as love.

Yet, I can find no love story more powerful, more spiritually uplifting, more awe inspiring as that of the Prophet Muhammad and Khadijah. It is a shining example of what an ideal marriage is, and if I ever claim that I love my wife, I must gauge my actions with that of the Prophet. As the country commemorates Valentine’s Day, and everywhere we turn this month, “love is in the air,” I cannot help but reflect upon, what is to me, the greatest of all love stories: that of Muhammad and Khadijah. Even with all of its amazing and creative talent, Hollywood could not have come up with a story greater than this.

Hesham A. Hassaballa is a physician and writer based in Chicago. You can visit his blog at www.drhassaballa.com




8 thoughts on “A True Love Story

  1. Javeria, one should be very, very careful narrating any incidence relating to our Holy Prophet (S. A. W.). Personally, I am a bit uncomfortable at the way the story is narrated, taking it closer to blasphemy, if not it per se. Especially the reference of Valentine’s Day is damaging.
    No one really knows what Our Prophet (S.A.W.) and Hazrat Khadijah felt for each other before they got married. Remember, Prophet’s every action is prophetic right from birth, and there is no possibility of worldly impurity. Before marriage, a man and a woman are “namahram” and it morally not acceptable to actually feel the love before nikah. Though we all go through it because we have weaknesses. It is through these weak parts of the vault of our morality, that Satan finds its way.
    I am therefore very much against the institution of engagement of young men and women, because it makes the sense of “love” between namahram individuals. socially acceptable, and lets them think of each other the way they shouldn’t. My own years long engagement broke last week as a result of my strong stance of being namahram for my fiance…for I never said to him that I loved him, and it was the second Valentine’s Day when I didn’t wish him, or even replied to his wish. (And he strongly began to think I was involved with someone else…thats the problem with most of our men.) But Alhamdulillah, I am so comfortable, and proudly answerable in front of Allah and His Rasool that I made this sacrifice for principles. I am telling you because I learned from one of your posts that you too have a fiance, and I wish you get married soon, and May Allah protect you and all of us from Satan’s attacks. Ameen

  2. Dear All,

    By jotting down a love story of ALLAH’s and his slaves’ most beloved, most respected human being, what exactly is the writer trying to depict? That a love story can be found every where in every time, just like movies? Is this some kind of a joke? Here we’re discussing a man who’s character was exactly tamed according to the will of ALLAH S.W.T. – there wouldn’t be any love stories here. Only things he were destined to do to set example for his fellow ummah. Not so that the ummah would write about him being an “employee” of anyone, even if it were Hazrat Khadijah R.A. – technically speaking this is unacceptable. What i do NOT however understand is, why has it been posted on this blog? I would like to request you to please take it off from here, and request the person who wrote it, to simply quit pulling out a “love story” out of the world’s most noble person that mankind has ever seen, he after whom there will be no person more respected and more beloved by ALLAH SWT till the Day of Judgement!

    P.S. I completely agree with the thoughts presented by Ms. Fatima.



  3. Hey, I suppose our protests were not strong enough to make you change your mind and remove this post from your blog. Might i request you again to take this article off your blog? Please? It gives the completely wrong impression.


  4. Asalamu Alaykum,

    I don’t understand why you people are making such a big issue of this article. Why are you viewing it in such a bad light? The author is merely trying to CORRECT our view regarding love and valentines day. What we see today in the name of love around February is nothing but immorality where as real love starts after marriage. And the best example of it is the love between Hadrat Khadija and our Prophet sallalahu Alayhe wassalam. And the best example of a devouted loving and a loyal wife is hazrat khadija and the best example of a husband is our prophet (saw)

    If you ponder the reason why Hazrat khadija ra sent the proposal for our Prophet, it was because of his beautiful and loyal and honest character and nothing else.

    Their marriage was an exemplary marriage and there is ample proof in many ahadith that they dearly loved each other and were examples of the best husband and best wife.

    So where is the blasphemy? The marriage of prophet (saw) is an example for us and whats there to be ashamed to claim to love your WIFE!??

    This article is encouraging marriage and explaining what real love means! It is not at all encouraging what we see around during February. Read this article with a pure mind instead of a perverted mind

    Read the ahadith detailing the intimacy of the marriages of Rasool Allah saw and his praise for his wife khadija. There is nothing blasphemous about it! his wives themselves have narrated these issues.

    Muslim :: Book 31 : Hadith 5972
    ‘A’isha reported:

    “Never did I feel jealous of the wives of Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) but in case of Khadija, although I did not, (have the privilege to) see her. She further added that whenever Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) slaughtered a sheep, he said: Send it to the companions of Khadija I annoyed him one day and said: (It is) Khadija only who always prevails upon your mind. Thereupon Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Her love had been nurtured in my heart by Allah Himself.

    Bukhari :: Book 5 :: Volume 58 :: Hadith 166
    Narrated ‘Aisha:

    I did not feel jealous of any of the wives of the Prophet as much as I did of Khadija though I did not see her, but the Prophet used to mention her very often, and when ever he slaughtered a sheep, he would cut its parts and send them to the women friends of Khadija. When I sometimes said to him, “(You treat Khadija in such a way) as if there is no woman on earth except Khadija,” he would say, “Khadija was such-and-such, and from her I had children.”

    Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: The best of the women of her time was Mary, daughter of ‘Imran, and the best of the women of her time was Khadija, daughter of khuwailid.

    Bukhari :: Book 5 :: Volume 59 :: Hadith 644
    Narrated Abu Uthman:

    Allah’s Apostle sent ‘Amr bin Al As as the commander of the troops of Dhat-us-Salasil. ‘Amr bin Al-‘As said, “(On my return) I came to the Prophet and said, ‘Which people do you love most?’ He replied, ‘Aisha….

  5. “As salaam alaikum , truly indeed thee most beatiful love story. A true example of a perfect Blessed marriage. Their characters and humbleness. Their match and love for each other. Honesty and Understanding. Which is very rare in today’s time. A marriage we all wish for and take a lesson. Something we all long for. May Allah SWT Bless us to bring the Sunnah in our lives Ameen. And practice the character of Our Beloved Nabi SAW Ameen thumma Ameen.

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