Fidgeting, biting, chewing,touching others and walls, clumsy behaviour, lack of attention and focus are all signs of an undeveloped Proprioceptive system. This video explains it beautifully. I feel terrible for getting annoyed and sometimes yelling at some of such behaviour in my daughter! May Allah forgive me and make me a better parent.
Excellent parenting tips from Nouman Ali Khan.. he talks about the mistakes that parents make which leads to extremely bad relationships between them and their teenaged childred. He emphasises that all that children crave when they are young 2, 3, 4 ,5 years old is the parents attention and approval. If we ignore them, consider them to be hinderences in our rest times, hobbies and interests.. they will shove us away when we are old!
For fathers! Your job begins when you GO HOME..be a father spend time with your children! After coming back home from a long day at work…its not vacation time!
In this lecture brother Noman Ali Khan has given invaluable advice on how to raise our children and teach them Islam. All Muslim parents must listen to his advice.
This made so much sense and gave me lots of encouragement to start homeschooling my daughter. There is one thing that I noted in my daughter which now makes sense to me. After four months of schooling when I met her teacher, she told me that she needs to work on quantity.. i.e. she could not count objects correctly, but when i tested her at home asking her to give me 4 tomatoes.. or to tell me how many fingers i had up.. she told me correctly! but when i gave her the school workbook to count the pictures of bees… she went one .. four..five.. eight! :S DUH.. what happened.. it was only after reading holts book did i realize what was hapenning.
This is what schools do to a child numb their brain…as John Holt says:
For children, the central business of school is not learning, whatever thisvague word means; it is getting these daily tasks done, or at least out of theway, with a minimum of effort and unpleasantness. Each task is an end initself. The children don’t care how they dispose of it. If they can get it out ofthe way by doing it, they will do it; if experience has taught them that thisdoes not work very well, they will turn to other means, illegitimate means,that wholly defeat whatever purpose the task giver may have had in mind.
Its been a long long time since i blogged.. reason… well its almost impossible to take out time for writing with a 2 year old and a new born in the house. I have missed blogging a lot and was thinking of how should I make a come back. So iv decided to share my joys and pains of married life and parenting and write very short write ups….so here goes.
Motherhood is a great transition. You finally realize what your mother went through and realize that bringing a new life into this world is the most amazing and the most difficult thing in this world. But guess what… raising them up is tougher than labor! Motherhood means sacrifice sacrifice of .. sleep hobbies interests and self! and it is only then you realize the worth of your mother.